Married women

I know some people will be uncomfortable about this topic. Maybe even offended. Let me say at the outset that I do not have a moral or ethical view about infidelity/cheating/polygamy.  If you do have a view, and especially if you think its wrong and wicked, then you are welcome to your views. But they are not mine.

I don't know that I have ever thought of myself as a monogamous person or ever wanted to be monogamous. It is a complicated reality. Maybe its a choice and so its complicated in that aspect also.

I always cherish the opportunity to have a sexual encounter with a woman who is married or otherwise has a significant other (yes - I don't limit those ethical/moral decisions to only those with a formal marriage).

So I count myself lucky to have had sex with quite a few 'married' women over the years.

And yes, in many cases I've been with those 'married' women when I was married myself. In case it makes a difference, yes I've always accepted (even encouraged) my female significant others to take opportunities for 'playing away.' I've enjoyed having a partner who is so sexual and so sexy that she can happily fuck other men and then come back home to me.

Some of you may be surprised to learn how many 'married' women have fucked me. I think this sort of thing is more prevalent than a lot of us want to accept. A lot of our female friends and colleagues are not monogamous. Women, in particular, may be less 'faithful' (stupid word) than we would accept broadly in society.

I've enjoyed all of my experiences with married women very much. The biggest reason might be that these women are also not locked into attitudes about sexual fidelity. So its kind of reaffirming for me.

Its also really sexy and arousing to find a woman who is a little more open and accepting of her sexuality and her sexual needs. Because, my thinking is, those women are more likely to want to 'let go' and to express themselves 'between the sheets'.

Sometimes they can be nervous if they've not been with 'another man' for a long time. That's kind of sexy, too. Often I feel they don't believe they have to prove anything or worry that they have to 'please' their partner. They can just relax and fuck (and everything else) and get what they want. And that can be very sexy as well.

I am not saying married woman are selfish lovers. Far from it. But they can relax a bit more and step outside of the 'normal' routine they feel they owe to their husband/partner. So there's an opportunity for sexual adventure.

This really comes up with a woman who wants to fuck another man so that she can maybe indulge in some of her desires and fantasies. Maybe hubby is not interested. Or maybe these desires are secret because she cannot share them with hubby. Maybe he'll react badly or just say 'no'. Or maybe its just one of those things where we can live with someone for years but somehow still have little secrets and a little part of our brain that they never get to see.

Dx was like that. She was happily married but had needs that couldn't be fulfilled at home. They were extreme, kinky needs. I wasn't the only man she explored with. That didn't matter. What was thrilling was that we communicated so well and in depth. I set out to bring her fantasies to life and give her those new experiences. It was a bit of an honour to be truthful. And I like to think she went away happy with having finally broken though some barriers.

Other times of course a woman is just unhappy. Maybe its her way of getting back at a boyfriend of husband who's been treating her badly. This might be true even if 'he' doesn't know she is fucking someone else. KT was in that position, unhappy and wondering about other fish in the sea. Luckily for me this also meant exploring lots of new things that she didn't want to share with her 'significant other' because she was so unhappy with him. The sex was fantastic and she really was ready to be lead into all sorts of new things. I know she hitched up with another man soon after me and I know he would have found KT to be a most passionate and giving lover.

Lb felt very unsatisfied at home and maybe even like her hubby wasn't sufficiently desirous of her. She also had a few kinky desires and I think the sudden freedom and a desire to really 'get something for herself' made her even more adventurous and her demands even more extreme. I was happy to accommodate them all, of course!

CH I know was a little bored in her relationship and had gotten hitched way too young. She was also exploring what was on offer in the 'sea'. For her (for both of us) the thrill was in having something new and exploring someone new. We kept in touch spasmodically afterwards and I know eventually she left that guy and went through a long series of relationships with other men. I think it was a case where CH knew she wasn't happy, she was looking for more and no one man seemed able to provide what she required.

It does not always work out so well. AH was one who chased me as a form of payback to her boyfriend. Ever after that experience I have been wary of those situations. AH had a body to die for. But the whole time I know she was thinking about 'him'. Her 'man' knew what was going on and had the good sense and patience to wait till AH got it out of her system. Maybe she just wasn't a very experienced lover. But whatever it was, with her and me there was something lacking, some absence of chemistry. That was a shame because I quite liked her and, as I said, she had a great body.

And some women are not cheating at all. Sometimes they have an open relationship or some other arrangement. Like I said at the top, I'm one man who is happy to know his 'wife' is in someone else's bed on a given night (maybe a man or maybe a woman).

Tx loved doing it with her husband in the room. I don't think it was a cuckold thing. It might have been. I didn't think it was right to ask if she didn't want to tell me up front. I enjoyed the experience very much, not least because that scene was new to me. Tx was a very vocal lover and I suppose that had something to do with the fact hubby was present and watching.

MN had a more 'conventional' open relationship. They both accepted the other person would have multiple partners. Only a few of her friends knew about this and so there was a real thrill to find that I had been 'chosen.' I am sure MN could have had her choice of many guys. And she had no problems with proposing to me in front of some of those friends. That was weird but, honestly, kind of a buzz as well. And the sex was great because MN knew she was chasing after as many new and varied experiences as she could get. So we communicated really well and got to try out a few new tricks that made us both very satisfied.

Mostly, though, there is a need when seeing a married woman to maintain discretion and security and secrecy. There is a small amount of thrill in that. its nothing to do with any idea of cuckolding another male or shitting in someone else's nest. A lot of it is to do with knowing there will be no strings.

And I also know what it is like to have to sneak around when a partner or significant other does not understand or approve of one's needs. Having been there myself I understand the drive a married person can have and also the need to be careful that the 'other operson' does not find out. So to be a part of that, on the other side, brings some personal satisfaction as well.

I know plenty of people just feel happier and safer and more content by being 'honest' or monogamous. And that is fine too (I guess). I mean, I am not criticising people for their choices if they don't want to engage in these extra-curricular activities.

But I am very glad that some women have come into my life at different times who have had these sorts of needs.