Women and anal sex

Now I admit I am a kinky person who likes to explore a whole range of 'taboo' acts and so forth, a pervert I guess in the old school description. So early on I had a strong desire to experience and explore anal sex (from the position of the giver).

FK was the first women to ever allow me to explore and I think a lot of that had to do with the fact she was open-minded and very much loves sex! And also I think the fact I was a little older and she was prepared to let me guide her. (That's also a very sexy experience!) FK quickly discovered she loved anal, especially if she rubbed her clit at the same time and reached one of her explosive orgasms.

So I was hooked after that. But what about women apart from FK?

I recall some years ago I read a report that 15% (I think - it was a long time ago) of women enjoyed anal sex. Well, my observations are based on only a small sample. But my experience is the number who are prepared to try is closer to 50%.

Those who enjoy it and will be happy to try it again is more like 40% I have found. And women seem to have many different reasons for enjoying anal.

Good for people like me!

In my time I have had the experience of introducing anal sex to 7 women who were 'anal virgins'. Of those, one definitely didn't like it and only one said after a few attempts that she didn't really enjoy it. And I can understand cos I don't enjoy having my bottom poked either! Still, for someone like me that's a good strike rate. But there have been others who point blank refused *lol*

Dm actually asked me before I brought it up. She said she wanted to experience 'what the other half have'. She loved the feeling of being on hands and knees and being slowly fucked in her arse. While not really a submissive, Dm enjoyed the thrill of being 'used' in that way and the idea it was a 'dirty' 'slutty' taboo. She loved feeling me cum inside her bum.

AW didn't blink when I suggested it to her. Again, I think she felt I was more sexually experienced and could show her some wonderful pleasures. We did it that very first time I asked. She never orgasmed from anal but we could go for ages, slowly reaming her in the missionary position. She loved being filled and the sensations actually seemed to be almost gentle and relaxing for her.

Some women hate the sensation of being filled up - as if they need to go to the toilet. A couple have told me that sensation is what they enjoy most about anal sex.

CD almost prefers to have a cock in her bottom than her cunt. And there is no doubt she can cum just as easily from anal.

I suppose like a lot of things, sometimes anal takes a bit of practice before both people work out how best to enjoy it.

Ss took a long time. She really wanted to learn to enjoy anal but just wasn't able physically to cope with it. But in the end it took a few years of 'off and on' gentle stroking and licking. Now she loves having her arse fingered while her cunt is being licked. And she's now able to enjoy having a cock in her arse and being slowly fucked while her clit is being rubbed. She loves the orgasms but still finds them 'different'. Some women appreciate that aspect of anal but Ss might still need a little more time to get to that stage.

And of course there's a range of toys and other playthings that can make anal play and exploration that much more fun.

Anal is also a really great element of D/s play too. The idea of the submissive totally surrendering her body, the potential for feeling vulnerable and used, maybe a bit of humiliation. That's where butt plugs come into their own, being worn out in public for example. GS was one woman I knew who very much enjoyed being tasked to go about her daily chores or even to the office with a nice nice soft intruder wedged inside her bum.

Someone might like to write about the experience of being a male on the receiving end. It won't be me - sorry. When it comes to anal, even though I think more women enjoy it than might be expected, I have tried it once or twice and I know that, in my case, being the recipient is not thrill at all.

The things women say

Women are wonderful creatures. And they do get a tough time from society and the attitudes that surround them. Its that 'madonna/whore' thing. And I suppose its not just that women learn to keep some feelings bottled up. When it comes to sex it might be that we all prefer a little bit of discretion. Are there times when we want our sex to be up-front and loud? And then other times when we prefer it to be a little quieter? Is it a 'time and a place' idea? Sex is a big part of our lives (for most people) but we often don't like to admit it.

I don't know all the answers to those questions. What I do know is that many women, when they're feeling safe and confident and strong and horny and private, can let their inner 'slut' out - expose those horny, assertive parts that sometimes society doesn't want to acknowledge about women/mothers/daughters/wives.

In times like that, some of the women I have known have uttered some really erotic and 'slutty' things.

'Cum on my face,' said Dx. 'Shoot it in my fucking mouth.' And this was no porn scene. She was right there with me. And the bits of cum that landed on her chin and her cheek, she scooped up with a finger and into her mouth. Yes, she probably was acting a porn scene - but why not? She wanted to and I was astonished and excited to be a part of it.

'Pound me.' That was Ss. Simple, to the point. And did I ever? - pulling her legs up onto my shoulders and folding her in half, the better to aim straight and deep into her cunt. I pounded her till she cried and screamed climax after climax. What did the neighbours think?

'Make my tits bounce.' Hmmmm... SH was a woman (like many I think) who not only can admit to enjoying robust fucking but sometimes like to walk on the 'dark side' a little. Would she be sore the next day? That was what she wanted - to feel truly fucked and to go on feeling it the next day. Later she told me it had worked!

FK knew what she liked but she was happy to let me choose. On more than one occasion her question to me was 'which do you want?'. Y'see, FK had allowed me to introduce her to anal sex. She loved it! And after that, very often when we fucked, FK would let me know she was ready for more, happily offering me the choice of which place I wanted to penetrate.

Dm also wanted something to touch her dark side. Something quite different. 'I'm a dirty evil slut and I need to be punished.' It was her most secret desire, something only once before hinted at when talking (she told me) to a girlfriend. many times I did spank her, too. She would be ordered to drop her trousers and underwear and lie over my lap. I would spank her brutally with my hand... and then she'd be so wet I'd finger her to orgasm. Oh how she enjoyed that reward. We bought her a paddle, too - a nice heavy, leather paddle. After that the beatings became more severe. Dm was always ready for them. On a couple of occasion she went to work the next day with huge, dark bruises all over her bottom. She confessed she loved the experience, a reminder of the previous night and a secret victory over the other 'straights' in her workplace.

Thanks to those wonderful women for such sexy memories.

Why this blog?

One day I will no longer be able to recall all the wonderful women I encountered and the wonderful things they shared with me. So this blog is my strategy to remember into the future. On top of that I wanted some way, even something anonymous, to acknowledge and thank those wonderful women. Some of them might recognise themselves her.

For everyone else, I hope you enjoy the insights I plan to give into human sexuality - most especially the amazing sexuality and bravery of the women who've taken me into their beds over these many years.